What I’ve learned

They say when you get into college, you will change into the better version of who you are but is that really the case? Two years ago since graduating high school, I always wanted to be my complete self to all that I met. So going into my first year of college, I had this expectation that my life was going to be much better that I would have many friends. The thought process that I had made me go overboard. See, I am naturally crazy, I liked to laugh and have a good time where ever I am but instead of letting it naturally come out, I had forced it out of myself making people think that something mentally was wrong with me. Doing those things led me to meet others that didn’t know who I really was. Then going into my second year, I said “OK Shanti go with the flow, when they become your friends then you can open up to them” but in doing so I met people that back-stab me behind my back. This made me to not open up to anyone close to me because everyone that I led in my life had backstab me in some type of way.

On the other hand college did teached me couple of things such as it doesn’t matter the quantity but the quality of your friends. The people that support and cheer for you to do well. I may not have many friends but I do have amazing people in my life that keep me to think positive. I wouldn’t have none of this without the Lord by my side, protecting me. HE brought these people into my life. I do not regret anything in my life because I know that it was a plan of GOD, he was growing me, helping me to become better. I can now see that where I am now. I thought what truly matters was my acceptance from other people because I have never had that before. People used to always bring me down and trying to impress them in effect it had brought my self esteem down. Not any more! I am standing up; GOD hand made us. So we are special in his eyes, it doesn’t matter what others think of you. The only thing matters is what you think of yourself, to love yourself the way that GOD loves us. I may be 21 and I may have a lot to learn but what i do know is that we don’t deserved to live the way society wants us to live. Society tells us to love ourselves but we are constantly being exposed to the standards of beauty. No one should have the right to tell us if we are beautiful or not. Not shouldn’t even be a thing because we all are beautiful, we have the potential to do all things. One thing I will leave you all is that don’t let anyone define your beauty.


Living on my own

For the first time in my life I feel like I am on my own. Since transferring to the this university I felt like I am “adulating”. Even though at my previous institution I was much farther from home and was living in a dorm, I still felt like I was depending on my parents. However, at this new school I am living in a dorm that have a kitchen (the other one didn’t have one). I am cooking my own food and buying groceries! It’s so weird how far time have passed. I remember hating my life, wishing that something will chance but what I learn is that you make your own decisions. You have the right to change your life around if you don’t like how something is playing out. No one can live your life, they may have opinions about how you living your life but that’s all it is, only you can change your life.

How To Deal With Procrastination?

“Today is the day to get started with my paper.” I always say when I have a paper due but end up waiting until the last day. It’s not I want to do it the last day but it’s that rush, the high you get from being stress that help your mind be able to stay focus.

This is one of the biggest problem that our generation is facing. We always procrastinate something important that we suppose to do. If it is very important to us then why do we feel the need to ignore it and put our attention towards something else that have less importance? What makes us wait until the last minute to finally get it done?

How can I stop procrastinating? In some ways it can be changing time managing skills, understanding where you put majourity of your time.

Ways to stop procrastinating

  • 2 minute rule- complete a task for 2 mins and then do another one for the next 2 mins and so on.
  • Set your tasks from categories big to small and majority of the time to less time. (This way by categorising what you have to do, it won’t seem to overwhelming)
  • Put on your favorite playlist (you do need to have some fun while doing some of your chores, right!)
  • Take BREAKS!!!! (Make sure to eat something and go outside to refresh your mind again. You might catch a new idea when you go back to your task)
  • Invite friends and/or family along. Who says you have to do this alone? Sometimes the more people you have can help you get done with the tasks quicker and plus you all will be entertaining each other.

Here are some things that you can do to help you not be able to procrastinate most things. Let me know if you have done some to these things or which one you think you wanted to try out. I will mostly be using all of these tips.

Don’t forget you are beautiful just the way you are!